Yesterday after school I asked Nate how is day was. He likes school and generally has a pretty good attitude. He answered "It was good." then he hesitated. Then he says, "Well except for one thing" . He goes on to tell me that at lunch, a boy in his class, we'll call him "Brandon" (cuz that's his name), was sitting next to him. "Brandon" asked another boy in their class if he could sit by him. The other boy said that there was not enough room so "Brandon" says, "Fine, I'll just sit by the freaking dork". Ouch.
What do I do about that? Well this is what I did. I said to Nate "Wow, sometimes kids can be really mean. I'm so sorry that happened to you." Then after Nate was gone I cried to my friend about it.
Later when I had more time to talk to him about it he told me that after "Brandon" made this hateful comment that Nate said "Hey I heard that" and then "Brandon" said "so, your wearing dorky clothes." (In "Brandon's" defence, and he needs one, it was "80's" day at school and Nate was dressed up in "80's" attire and we all know that the 80's were kind of dorky.) Nate then responded by saying "uh, it's "80's" day." and "Brandon" went and sat at another table.
So here are the two options I came up with for how to handle the situation going forward.
1- Let it go for now unless it becomes an on going thing. After all Nate did stick up for himself.
2- Next Wednesday I am going on a field trip with Nate's class to Cave of the Winds where "Brandon" could just mysteriously disappear.
I don't know. What do you think?
Nate really is the sweetest kid and is always so concerned about other people's feeling so it breaks my heart that he had to deal with this.
5 comments:
sad. it's hard when kids are mean. Jordan is 13 now and experiencing "mean girls" for the first time. so far she is handling it pretty well. there is one girl who always makes fun of the way she dresses (which seriously pisses me off, cuz the girl looks adorable and i spend more money on her clothes than i do my own). when i ask J about it she says, "i think she is jealous cuz i look super cute and she kinda doesn't, but i would never tell her that."
awesome she has that whole thing figured out!
i vote the kid gets "lost" on the feild trip. it sounds like Nate has that guy figured out tho.
but yes it is sooooo heartbreaking! i think as moms we will do the most crying over it. kids are resilient.
I hate mean kids! Josh had an ongoing mean kid at his new school. He bugged him every day: just called him names and teased him. We tried lots of things (Randy told Josh to punch the kid; we taught him lots of funny comebacks which worked for a little while; we even talked to the teacher). No use.
When it started up again at the beginning of a new school year (they're not even in the same class together this year), we talked to his new teacher about it and threatened to go to the principal. She took care of it right away. I think the teacher last year was just lame.
Josh had other friends, so he handled it okay, but it was really tough. If I ever see Anthony outside of school, I think I'm going to punch him.
Why can kids be like that! Your family is soo precious!
Way to stick up for yourself Nate!!!
I think the cave of the winds sounds like a great plan.
By the way, the 80's were not dorky!!!
a good swift kick to the throat will solve the problem. Then the come back is put that in your dork pipe and smoke it. HA HA
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